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Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Transitions: Riding the Mouse

As a kid I remember riding a small roller coaster called “The Mouse.” The primary characteristic of it was the abrupt change of direction it frequently took without warning. Were it not for the seat belts and grab handles one could have been easily thrown out of the car. Today, I find it surprising we all did not suffer immediate spinal dislocations. There were a few small hills and drops, but the sudden left and right turns were the “attraction” of the ride. There were no smooth transitions.

We all deal with transitions throughout our life time. Some of the transitions are imperceptible. Six months ago my oldest grandson was a shade over five feet four inches. Last week he measured in a five feet six inches and wears a larger shoe than I do. How and when did that happen? On the other hand, he’ll be facing a big transition in September ow Hhhhwhen he begins high school. For him that might be a jarring transition.

Over the years I have identified three major times of transition for ministers/pastors. This identification has come from observing other ministers and from reflection on my own journey as a teaching elder. Two of the transitions, even with the best planning, seem to be more jarring than the third in which we just kind of find our-self there.

The first transition is from seminary to parish. This is an especially jarring transition for those who lived the previous twenty years in academia. From kindergarten through seminary is a long journey under the tutelage of others and in the acquisition of information. Even if one grew up and remained active in the church all those years, we have to admit, upon ordination, we knew very little about how to be the pastor/teaching elder in and for a congregation. I admit I did not even though I had an excellent education and varied field experience both in college and seminary. Becoming a pastor/teaching elder is one of those abrupt turns which can cause spiritual and emotional whiplash.

The second transition is one which creeps up on the minister. Finding one’s self in “mid-career” is a transition about which very little is written or even talked about. Columbia Seminary is offering a COLLOQUY FOR MID-CAREER CLERGY in May of 2015. They state, Clergy in mid-career face challenges, both personal and professional, that are unique to their stage in life and vocational trajectory. They have accumulated experience, know-how, and a certain amount of confidence. Not quite novices, many are still not “experts.” In fact, one of the paradoxes of clergy in mid-career is serving in increasingly complex contexts that continue to challenge their competencies. (http://www.ctsnet.edu/colloquy-for-mid-career-clergy) Many of us awoke one day and said, “This is a far different church then I signed up for when I was ordained. Do I really want to keep doing this for the next fifteen or twenty years?”

The third transition, and another abrupt one, is into retirement. The Board of Pensions of the PC(U.S.A.) offers an excellent pre-retirement workshop. http://www.pensions.org/MembersAndEmployers/LifeEvents/Pages/Preparing-for-Retirement.aspx) However, one should attend this workshop far, far in advance of actually thinking about retirement. I would advise that one should attend the workshop within the first five years after ordination and then again ten years prior to retirement. Many teaching elders find it nearly impossible to go from one week providing the full range of pastoral services to an “all stop” the next week. The impact of the retirement transition really hits in two or three months, when we realize we are not on an extended vacation. One can only play so much golf before asking, “Is this all there is?”

One need not deal with these transitions in a vacuum. These three transitional times are excellent occasions to engage a coach. A coach will work with you to move into and through these transitions seeking the path for excellence in life and ministry. The world outside of the church has discovered the value of coaching. The church is just beginning to discover the value of coaching. There is no reason for every transition to be like riding “The Mouse,” being abruptly jerked one way and then another.

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