In my
experience, there are some congregations which have become irreparably toxic.
At some point in the past something happened. Years of effort to clean-up the
mess have only removed some of the more superficial toxic residue. Perhaps the
damage came in the form of sexual or fiscal misconduct within the congregation.
Maybe the damage was done as the result of a congregational split. Regardless
of the reason for the toxicity, in spite of rigorous efforts to remove the
toxic memories, the life of the congregation has been so poisoned a thorough
clean-up is impossible.
In the story
of the nuclear site and the dump site, those in the town and surrounding area
are fearful of the nuclear material getting into the food supply of gardeners
and farmers. They are fearful further efforts to remove the even more dangerous
materials might cause the materials to become air borne. This does not even
begin to address how many others downstream have been or may be effected by the
nuclear materials leeching into the water supply. Yet, there has been and is no
mass exodus of residents. Most remain and try to carry on with their daily
lives.
In toxic
congregations some members hang on and hang on praying for the day a new
cleanup effort might be successful. All the while, the presbytery, conference,
or diocese has stopped cleanup efforts when discovering the extent of the
toxicity and stuff they are ill-prepared to handle. At times members from the
toxic congregation do move to a new congregation totally unaware they carry
some of the toxin with them. The toxin has entered their emotional and
spiritual DNA. The new congregation welcomes them with open arms. At some point
in the future the toxin begins to replicate itself in the new congregation. A
congregation of little conflict becomes a congregation of high conflict as
members from the toxic congregation begin to react to situations or people which
remind them of what happened or what might happen.
Dealing with
toxic congregations is as perplexing as dealing with nuclear sites and dumps. I
know of one toxic congregation which a presbytery closed, after years of trying
to guide the congregation to being a nuclear free zone, and after four pastors
all left within the third year of their service in the midst of high conflict. Maybe
all we can do is to encase the toxicity, surround the site with high fences
with concertina wire, and warn away future members and pastors.
I have no answers for this one. I have seen it in small and larger congregations; in city, suburban and rural congregations; in highly educated and barely literate congregations. There are no instant means of removing the toxicity of a nuclear site, nor of a congregation.
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